Is it Valentine's Day?

Is it Valentine’s Day?

Oh.

I love Valentine’s Day! I love it just like I love every other single day when I get to live it. I love that it’s today. I love that it's right now ... and now ... and OH! NOW! I love that I’m alive. I love that LOVE is source energy and the flowing well of eternal inspiration should you choose to tap into it.

That doesn’t mean that I am happy every day. It doesn’t mean that I am smiling and joyous and pain free and that gratitude comes easily every day. It simply means that I am going to be damn thankful to be above ground hanging out with my kids, training in the gym, chatting with friends, and kissing on my husband for this day

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Is it Valentine’s Day? Is it not Valentine’s Day? IDGAF

So, how about you? Are you focused, for this one day, on what you feel you don’t have? Are you letting society's fabricated expectations weigh you down, creating unnecessary guilt and shame?

You have some choices (a lot, to be honest, but we’ll focus on a few).

Be all mushy gushy happy sappy posting a picture of you and Bae dressed in red and pink coordinated outfits kissing under a rainbow colored waterfall.

Be all doom and gloom and sad and mad posting about how it’s *le sigh* another VDAY “alone” binging Netflix and stuffing yourself with chocolates.

Be all I’m single and I mingle and I’m damn proud to pay my own bills and I’m out partying with my other wildly awesome single friends.

No judgement here.

You. Do. You.

Just make sure you're living from the heart, you're living from a place of self-love, and not trying to create drama or play the victim role - because that shit is not cool. You always have choices.

Anyway, I feel like NO MATTER which of those choices we make we are playing into a commercialized and, quite honestly, completely made up “holiday”. Want to give someone a sweet card? Do it ANY day! Heck, make them one! Love eating chocolate because it makes you happy and you enjoy the flavor and creamy sensation? Do it ANY day! Love hanging with your significant other because they are fun, hot, kind, loving, and respect you? Celebrate that ANY day! Love rocking out with your single or not-so-single friends? Do that ANY day!

Point is, figure out what lights your soul on absolute mutha-fucking FIRE and do that. Do it often and light the world on fire with your amazing, vibrant energy!

If you are feeling alone or down and generally struggling through this day, perhaps take a quiet few moments and consider … What do you have and appreciate for which you could take the time to hold a space of gratitude in your heart? If you’re still feeling angry or sad that is OK. Go scream or cry into a pillow … maybe even punch it = HARD. Then, do what lights you up!

Life is change.

Have you ever considered that no matter how much you love and respect your parents, guardians, partner, children, other family, friends and coworkers the one person with whom you have the longest, and arguably most important relationship, is YOU?!

Watching my Mother, who is phenomenal BTW, grieve the absence of my Father (gone from this physical world 4 years now) has been an invaluable teaching tool. Grief manifests differently for each person. It also shows itself at unpredictable times and can vary for the same person in each of the different times.

Combinations of sorrow, anger, frustration, loneliness, and hopelessness, just to name a few, can leave a person feeling pretty lost. My point? Develop a relationship with yourself. Do kind, thoughtful, loving things for yourself. Then let that feeling of warmth and love pour out into whatever relationships you choose to have.

Don't have a CLUE as to how to start loving yourself? Hang out with someone who thinks you're pretty damn awesome. It could be a friend, your lover, or your Mom! Put yourself in their shoes, imagine the way they speak to you, how the things you do for them make them feel, and then begin to see yourself through their eyes. Hold onto that feeling and reconnect with it when you're feeling "less than".

If you do have a significant other and spend time thoughtfully planning a special Valentine's Day is that way out of the ordinary or do you show each other love on a daily basis?

Would you also be willing to spend an equal or greater amount of time planning a special event for yourself? Fall in love with yourself. Give yourself special, thoughtful gifts. Make sacred, glorious space.

Giving and receiving is a constant balance. Remember that a part of receiving includes receiving gifts that you can give yourself. These could include quiet time, a workout, lunch with a friend, date night, a hot bath, your favorite tv show, time to work on your heart’s project, or chocolate … lots and lots of chocolate ;-)

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